8 Keys to Creating a Loving, Joyful Relationship (from Margareth Paul, PhD)
Do you believe that if you have to work on a relationship, it's not the right relationship for you? Having worked with couples for 45 years, I can tell you without a doubt that this is NOT true!
However, "working on a relationship," doesn't mean that it has to be hard. It primarily means that you continually learn and grow toward being an ever-more-loving person. While we don't need to be in a relationship to continue to evolve toward being more loving, relationships trigger all that is unhealed within us, thereby offering us wonderful opportunities for healing and growth.
Here are eight keys that I've found to be essential in creating a joyful, loving relationship:
1. Take responsibility for your own feelings rather than blame your partner
Self-abandonment is the primary cause of relationship failure. You abandon yourself when you avoid responsibility for your feelings by:
- Staying focused in your head rather than learning to be present in your body and your feelings
- Judging yourself rather than learning to love and value yourself
- Turning to addictions to numb your feelings
- Making your partner responsible for your feelings
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